tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post2326071974582818197..comments2012-09-16T12:54:32.310-04:00Comments on One Girl's Story: The TrialOne Girl's Storyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06417023080381049197noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post-82659705175421123472011-03-21T18:11:12.917-04:002011-03-21T18:11:12.917-04:00Sorry, I have been AWOL - I was actually on a jury...Sorry, I have been AWOL - I was actually on a jury in a murder trial myself in the last couple of weeks. I have found - as far as memory goes - that it is a very unreliable thing. Each time you tell about something, you begin to remember it as you told it, rather than as it happened. This is true for everybody. Memory tends to rub off the rough edges, or to make sense of disparate elements that don't seem to hang together at first viewing. This is partly why your dad 'didn't look so bad' after you had other bad experiences. He was a monster. This 'not so bad' thought is one of the things that keep people returning to bad relationships or other situations. You have every right to remember things as you do, and to feel as you do about your mother. Relatives, religions, governments, teachers all try - sometimes "for your own good", more often so that THEIR vision will not be disturbed - to shame, argue, cajole, explain you out of seeing what you do see. What you saw and remember is your truth; it will shape your behavior, no matter what others think. It is not a 10-year-old's responsibility EVER to keep her mother out of jail; it IS a mother's responsibility to keep a child safe. That's the deal when you have a child. You do not need to listen or worry about WHY things happen; to be healthy you must remember as well as you can what DID happen, and let others cover their asses however they wish.DavidShaghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02378015294494222646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post-26964888796760173872011-03-08T08:33:58.793-05:002011-03-08T08:33:58.793-05:00I understand completely what you mean by how your ...I understand completely what you mean by how your mother must have been feeling and doing.. but it was selfish nonetheless. I don't think she ever had the chance to grow up in her life with your father. She never matured. Obviously.<br /><br />You write really well Lovely Lady..Maryxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10374102286000982901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post-12169002267667704502011-02-20T10:01:24.151-05:002011-02-20T10:01:24.151-05:00You write with a burning intensity. I know it'...You write with a burning intensity. I know it's a focus you wish you didn't have to have but I think you are right to do it.Philip Doddhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13164671362164285231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post-46043052034419616772011-02-19T12:09:55.036-05:002011-02-19T12:09:55.036-05:00Keep at it, One Girl. We're with you. ;)Keep at it, One Girl. We're with you. ;)Jaynehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06694559900539722616noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post-62492761131993007532011-02-18T12:53:20.003-05:002011-02-18T12:53:20.003-05:00Sorry that this is so difficult for you - it's...Sorry that this is so difficult for you - it's so brave of you to share it. I hope it is cathartic for you to let it out.Bagladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03997388396773480963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post-24675919803452196742011-02-18T00:29:13.971-05:002011-02-18T00:29:13.971-05:00I stumbled upon your blog yesterday, and I just wa...I stumbled upon your blog yesterday, and I just wanted to tell you that even though you are blogging anonymously, you are so brave to share your story. I know it has to be difficult to deal with these memories. I have some phantom memories of my own, and I can't even blog about them. I sincerely hope your sharing here, is indeed helping finally close some of those old wounds.Kelli Halehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09312335836590750657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post-76630120532127626492011-02-17T23:33:18.942-05:002011-02-17T23:33:18.942-05:00Forgive me for not replying to your comments on my...Forgive me for not replying to your comments on my previous posts. That is not like me, I love comments and love to comment. Usually I am really on top of that.<br /><br />But the last two blogs i have found difficult to write and difficult to respond to. Please do not give up on me, or stop commenting, I am reading and I will reply. But for some reason, I am having a hard time with this process right now. I think it is because I am about to head into the most difficult part for me, so it is hard to address all of this.<br /><br />Unfortunately this story only gets worse, and I have never truly dealt with it. This is a major part of the closure for me and I need all of you to complete taht process, it is just right now, I am trying to deal with all of the emotion that comes with putting it out there for everyoneOne Girl's Storyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06417023080381049197noreply@blogger.com