tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post6372686383507205322..comments2012-09-16T12:54:32.310-04:00Comments on One Girl's Story: The Black Widow, One Killed but Three are Dead!One Girl's Storyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06417023080381049197noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post-20972446060725304402011-03-08T07:50:54.548-05:002011-03-08T07:50:54.548-05:00Oh jeez... this is horrible! I can understand the ...Oh jeez... this is horrible! I can understand the black widow status. I think your mother lost touch of reality a little...Maryxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10374102286000982901noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post-20761658142699349742011-02-11T03:55:41.399-05:002011-02-11T03:55:41.399-05:00Wow I had no idea that 2 other people had died and...Wow I had no idea that 2 other people had died and what a horrible way to pass. My best friend drowned last June at the Beach and I thought he could swim too but one day he was here and the next he wasn't.The Real Housewife of Greensborohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03832031304364511706noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post-48756486991055803372011-02-02T15:49:12.149-05:002011-02-02T15:49:12.149-05:00How you doin? You're leaving as much space bet...How you doin? You're leaving as much space between posts as I am! This was great as usual - I put up an email link on my front page if you want to use it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18165249827851091781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post-6220833753864605592011-01-31T11:19:36.567-05:002011-01-31T11:19:36.567-05:00I'd still like to hear if you think you'd ...I'd still like to hear if you think you'd have been better off in the foster care system. Of course, you can't know how that would have gone - I am interested on your thoughts on whether you believe the odds would have been more or less in your favor. <br /><br />People always seem to say that someone who behaves badly 'has to live with that the rest of his or her life'. I think this is just a fatuous assumption that it is all that difficult; people seem endlessly able to forgive themselves. I'd like to be clear that I think your mother did 100% the right thing in offing the bastard - had she merely left he'd have found some other woman to mistreat, and probably had more kids to maul also. I only feel that she was remiss afterward in leaving her duty to her children for a ten year old to take care of.DavidShaghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02378015294494222646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post-86661244169127559722011-01-29T09:09:36.818-05:002011-01-29T09:09:36.818-05:00Thanks for your response and for trying to find ou...Thanks for your response and for trying to find out what I wrote, I've tried to make the translation as accurate as I can :) and of course I will write and read more if I get the time. By now I'm basing on facts but I have also an artistic purpose so I'd like to create stories when I'll have time and inspiration. Best wishesBeatqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12894694090994100206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post-68429700223876508332011-01-25T11:59:40.047-05:002011-01-25T11:59:40.047-05:00I am really confused, I've just started to rea...I am really confused, I've just started to read your last post and I don't know if all this is real or just a story, I guess I'd had to read more but you never know, you come from a land of possibilites. Congrats for your efforts.Beatqueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12894694090994100206noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post-64540879598016123942011-01-24T10:44:53.530-05:002011-01-24T10:44:53.530-05:00David,
I think my mom did pay dearly, up until sh...David,<br /><br />I think my mom did pay dearly, up until she killed my dad her whole life was controlled, she lived in fear of setting him off.<br />I can remember one night he wanted a glass of ice water, she put the water in teh glass BEFORE the ice... she brought it to him and when she walked away he though the glass and hit her in the head with it, breaking the glass.<br /><br />I can remember him beating her because he was sure she was flirting with her brother!<br /><br />After the killing, we ended up with my grandma, and my grandma I feel really did her dirty keeping us away, I found her years later, which I will blog about, but I think that separation killed her. We are close now but it took many years to get to where we are.<br /><br />I think she wakes every morning with that guilt, especially when she found out what happened to me while we were with my grandparents, which is another blog as well.<br /><br />I swear,when I go back and read these posts, it is like a lifetime movie or somethingOne Girl's Storyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06417023080381049197noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post-81515425006690897882011-01-22T08:46:00.044-05:002011-01-22T08:46:00.044-05:00There was a time when I thought words and actions ...There was a time when I thought words and actions were gifts that came with no strings attached. I believed that I could say or do anything, so long is it wasn't hurtful to the other people involved in the immediate moment. I have come to see that this is not true. Your mother was quite young and probably still in that part of her life where life seemed like a smorgasbord (once the horrible marriage was over)despite her dire situation. She probably thought she had earned some pleasure. But words and actions are not independent of consequence, and any significant thing you say or do has set you and others on a shift in course. On the one hand, one cannot just do nothing in life, but on the other hand, some caution is necessary, because thoughtless and inconsiderate behavior hurts others in a very real way, and most of the time a very big bill can come due. Your mother was horribly careless with the hearts and lives of those whom she should have been loving. Everyone around both your parents seemed to have paid very high costs. I am waiting eagerly for your next installments, because it is not clear to me yet whether she, too, paid dearly.<br /><br />I would like your thoughts sometime on whether you and your brothers would have been better in foster care or something like that. A friend of mine insists that any parent, no matter how awful, is better than being "put in the system". I would value your opinion on this.DavidShaghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02378015294494222646noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2026672339680338990.post-48751662386968418872011-01-22T08:08:22.507-05:002011-01-22T08:08:22.507-05:00Wow. I can see why you would want and need to shar...Wow. I can see why you would want and need to share your life. There is so much that has happened to you (and much more I am sure) and even just trying to decide on an order to write everything must be challenging.<br />Be strong, I am thinking of you.dys·func·tionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05461778495707177569noreply@blogger.com